One of the most common problems of the 21st century is the lack of time. This is one of the main reasons, why desperate careerists come to a psychologist (on whom they hardly managed to spend an extra hour). Of course, all of them directly link the busy schedule with the inability to build a personal life. Is everything really so serious, and how to find time for yourself, dating and making family, without giving up your favorite profession?
In our World, to sit and wait is a synonym to remain inactive. And this is unlikely to meet a person of your dream, who could like to have a tea with you, if you don’t do any actions (if you are not neighbors, of course), because this person does not even know where do you live. We do not deny the fact, that happiness can suddenly happen, and you should always be on the alert. But it is still better to make some actions.
The scenario in the heads is always almost the same – after a series of disappointments, a happy end for sure will come, so you just need to let go of the situation, and there that person will for sure appear on the horizon. Such a scenario is really very attractive, because it comes true for many. But here it is important to remember one philosophical fact that always lowers to the ground – everybody has its own path, in both career and relationship.
What to do? We need to stop waiting and start acting. You will be mistaken, doubt and disappointed, but it’s impossible to avoid failures on the path to happiness. Even people with flawless intuition periodically make mistakes, but because of this, you should not close in yourself and stop looking. Remember, hope is beautiful, when you get tired of waiting and realize that you are alone, it doesn’t help. Hope must always be fueled by action.
In order not to allocate time directly on dates themselves in the process of searching for candidates, get acquainted in real life. Weave the search process into your daily routine, and then you will be surprised how many interesting people are around.
Here are some tips that will help in real life to all those who have very little time. Just use daily situations:
1. Show confidence and openness with colleagues
When meeting in real life, non-verbal signals can play into your hands. Remember open postures, steady (but not excessive) eye contact and a sincere smile. They will do half the battle: they will arrange for you an unknown person, who works on the other floor.
2. Offer help on the street
A courteous stranger who offers a girl to carry a huge suitcase or explain the road, as a rule, makes her sympathize. Just do not confuse courtesy with obsession. Usually, “no” still means “no,” and excessive perseverance will not add you points.
3. Use any available information about the stranger
Does she ride the jeep and reads Dostoevsky? Or is she wearing a Darth Vader shirt? That’s good topic for the first conversation. But here it is necessary to remember about tact. It is definitely not worth commenting on what the girl does in her phone, even if she does not close the screen with her hand. Keep privacy.
4. Go to concerts
If you are at a concert or exhibition, then your tastes, most likely, coincide with the tastes of a charming stranger and it will be easier to find a topic for conversation.
5. Attend gym
As practice shows, both single men and women attend the gyms equally, so the chance to meet your soul mate here is quite large. And the common topic is always there. For example, you can discuss the nuances of training.
6. Go to a business lunch in the neighboring cafes and restaurants
Use the environment as a reason to start a conversation. Ask, for example, which product or dish is better to choose, noting down, that the girl looks like a person you can trust. In general, use all the resources of everyday life to the maximum.
7. Make a compliment to your neighbor
A win-win option if the compliment is devoid of platitudes, but not subtlety. Forget about cliches like oceans of the eye and waterfalls of hair. But do not overdo it with originality: information that the girl has the best fingers in the World or the ideal curvature of the teeth is clearly redundant, if you met in the elevator.
8. Use social networks
The advantage of social networks is obvious: they provide a lot of information and in some sense simplify the first step.
9. Look for passion in thematic groups
The easiest way to make acquaintance and find the right party is to choose by interests. Groups, public, events in social networks – you can get acquainted right there or contact the girl in private. A sample list of topics for conversation will be easy to come up with.
10. Acquaintance in a bookstore
“The bookstore is a good place to meet” – it sounds, probably, rather ridiculous. Although in fact it can be a very good option. The beauty is that here you always have a completely legal way to appeal to the person you like.
11. Use dating sites
To get acquainted through specialized sites or services is easy, because they are used by girls who are in search. But there are no less potential problems. To increase your chances, fill in your profile, and carefully select a photo.
12. Do not forget to meet with friends.
Even a short trip to the bar on Saturday night can bring new friends. After all, there you can always meet beautiful strangers who also have no one to spend the evening with.
According to statistics, most often the future spouses meet in the company of mutual friends, and only in second place is office dating. So if you want to find your soul mate, never refuse invitations to friendly parties, birthdays, weddings and anniversaries.
13. Speed dating
These are “quick date” parties, where in a couple of hours you can get acquainted with several candidates.
14. Go on vacation
While on holiday at the resort, even the most passive individuals manage to acquire new contacts and make friends. Actually, dating begins with landing on a plane or train and continue to occur until returning to the starting point.
15. Familiarity in the supermarket
The supermarket is probably the most unromantic place in the world (after McDonald’s and tax). But, still, many people manage to make interesting acquaintances there. Didn’t you ever have to run to the nearest supermarket at night for a portion of cakes, a pack of cigarettes, or just a light snack? Take a closer look – perhaps somewhere nearby, one more loneliness wanders among the shelves, thinking of late dinner.
16. Foreign language courses
Another way to combine business with pleasure is to go to a foreign language course. If you do not speak French, then it’s time to correct this annoying flaw, because often the knowledge of this language is among the standard requirements for well payed job!
17. Buy a dog
A four-legged friend who needs to walk twice a day, will allow to be in the fresh air more often, as well as bring new acquaintances. And the general theme will always be easily found, because nothing brings together such as discussion of common problems and concerns.
By using these simple tips, you would be able to find person even if your working roaster is very hard. Just look around carefully in your free time, and the result will come.